Posts Tagged: list

Leaving

Leaving

Everybody seems to be doing the “list” thing these days. Buzzfeed started it; I think that’s how it went, anyway. But then everyone else followed suit. It’s quick and easy internet fodder, ammiright? And unfortunately, clever gets mistaken for talent online all day everyday. Don’t get me wrong, though. I’m not saying there aren’t some entertaining lists out there. I’m just saying I have a problem with the trend.

A list is a way to say something, but without putting a whole lot of heart in it (not to mention soul). That’s super sad. Me? I like to get at the heart of a thing.

Now, I’d be lying if I claimed I’ve never been entertained by a list like “10 Organ Recipients Who Took On The Traits Of Their Donors” or  “21 Hilarious Tweets That Will Make You Question Everything.” However, I can honestly say I only go to sites with lists like that when I’m irretrievably bored.

This list thing that’s overtaken the interverse is also sad because, well? It seems so on-trend with the direction America is taking these days. They’re bundled up cheap thrills that keep us occupied from otherwise having any kind of productive, provocative or creative thoughts.

This morning I thought I’d try to dump that premise – the one that says we’re becoming less productive, provocative, and creative because things – on its head and ask: WHAT IF I write a story in list form? Hmmm, interesting… Besides, I’m always up for a challenge, so here, uhhh, for better or worse, is my first try at it.

To Do:

  1. Pick up dry cleaning
  2. Dogs to groomer
  3. Pay bills
  4. Mani-pedi @2
  5. Lawyer’s office
  6. Gas up car
  7. Finish packing
  8. Leave key on table (w/note?)

(It’s certainly not the best story I’ve written, but I’d say it’s not completely smelly-bad for a first try.) What do you think?

Thoughtful

Thoughtful 800(Day 23 of 30)

I try hard to be a thoughtful person. It seems easy for some people to do what’s thoughtful and just be that way all day, everyday. It’s not for me. I try, but I wish it were more automatic. So with that in mind, here are seven reminders for how I can work to be a more thoughtful person:

  1. Schedule thoughtful plans into my calendar. This seems counter-intuitive, but it’s really not. Scheduled thoughtfulness is not automatically thoughtful. But if I make consistent plans to be thoughtful, then being thoughtful could become automatic. Fingers crossed!
  2. Smile often! How easy is that? A simple smile can brighten the day for every person you pass. And even if they’re not in need of one, a genuine smile is always welcome. Plus, smiling releases endorphins (those HAPPY hormones). WIN – WIN!
  3. Be patient, especially when I’d really rather not. It’s hard to remember that everyone moves at their own pace. Just because I’m feeling rushed doesn’t mean people around me are; most likely they’re not. I’ll try this: the next time I’m stuck in traffic and someone is moving like a slug I’ll remember that the couple of extra seconds I might gain won’t make a real difference.
  4. Practice generosity. I live in the Las Vegas Valley and we have a lot of panhandlers here. Some are truly in need, some are not, and sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference. I want to be generous, but don’t want to get duped. Here’s a plan – I’ll buy an extra bottle of water when I’m buying myself one in the convenience store. That way, when I stop at a corner and there’s a panhandler looking for money, I can donate a cold drink instead. Even if they don’t really need money, they certainly need to keep hydrated.
  5. Be on time. There’s nothing more wasteful than wasting someone else’s time. I have friends and family who are chronically late. I know this about them, and I fully understand that it’s hard to get out of the house on time every time, but for god-sake, try. Just try. And if you’re the one who schedules an event and you’re not there at the time you scheduled it? That’s inconceivably rude. Don’t do that.
  6. Be efficient. Wait, what? Yes, efficient. Here’s a good example: When I’m waiting in line at the bank, I can use that time to fill out my deposit slip. When it’s my turn at the teller’s desk, I’m ready to do business. That way I don’t end up fumbling around in my purse and slowing up an already frustrating and long line.
  7. Recognize my own imperfections. Yes!! As perfect as I’d like to be, I am far from it. I know this about myself and I own it. The fringe benefit of owning my imperfections is that it gives me room to accept the imperfections of others. All I, and you, and everyone else can do is try our best. None of our bests will be perfect, but at least we’re trying.

Which is a perfect place to end this list, because, well, I know darn well as hard as I try, some days I will be a thoughtless cur. And the best thing I can do at the end of those days is know that I have another chance to be the kind and thoughtful person I want to be tomorrow.